These are words!


Things are happening and I’ve been trying to get better at many of those things.  Like telling you what’s happening, I’m not good at that.  I’ve been keeping a written journal, which is great and all, but you can’t see it.  I wouldn’t want you to.  I’ve gone on adventures.  I’ve stayed in the house.  I wanted to pop in and say something, you know, because you wonder what I have to say.

I bought a new convection oven.  I know, it’s exciting.  My microwave died.  It works great as a kitchen timer, clock or night light.  If you want it, come get it.  Mali isn’t sure what to do with this new contraption.  The timer clicks and she stares at it.

I spent the weekend at the beach and visited a church there.  The message was great – about the Father’s love and the story of Hosea.  Very fitting for a Father’s day message.  Then a woman named Morningstar got up to tell about how her son was almost swept out to sea and she had to run in and save him. Then she prayed for ‘those who couldn’t save all of them’ and I cried.  I ugly cried.  Right there.  I cried for all of the ones who didn’t make it.  The girl whose brother found her hanging – who was beyond help before he even called and the father who found his son hanging – who was celebrating his first Father’s Day without his boy.  That one got me – He kept saying “I need to cut my boy down, how do I get my boy down?!” My heart was crushed.
Two people prayed with me, but I couldn’t tell them why I was crying, not really.

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Overall, it was a good weekend.

 

I went and saw 3 light stations and got sunburned on the ferry ride, but then I came home and Mali was sick.  I had to take her to the emergency vet and she had to take drugs for days and now she’s feeling better.

And that is my life.  A roller coaster.  More like a carousel – ups and downs and rounds and rounds.

I don’t really have anything else to say.  I’m trying to stay busy and keep my mouth shut until it’s time to go home.

I did something


and it was terrifying.  Mostly because it wasn’t scary.  I went to Nash Street Tavern’s Open Mic on Tuesday.  There is some legit talent in Hillsborough.  Not that I’m shocked, but it was great to see live music again.  It’s few and far between.  Yes, I played.  Last.  I sat quietly in the back and when they did a last call I asked for a guitar.  That may have been the first time I was nervous to play in many, many years.  The last time was stepping out on stage to a packed stadium.  But once I started playing I felt right at home.  They asked me to come back.  I might.

Here’s a song I didn’t play.

This song keeps coming to mind lately.  More so than when it first came around in my head.  God promises to never give us any more than we can handle, but some times I think he forgot to turn down the stress a notch.  Some days get pretty heavy and it’s not even crazy things.  I used to be totally stressed over actual legit things.  How am I going to pay rent?  Are they going to shut the lights off?  etc…  It’s so strange that I can go to the store for groceries and buy them.  Just put the stuff in the cart and go pay for them.  If you’ve never been absolutely broke, good for you.  I’m glad to be over that season of my life.

I really didn’t have any real intentions when I started this and I really don’t have anything to talk about.  I just wanted you to know that I’m still here.

Let’s do some things!


I’ve been wanting to write for a long time.  I’m in a place right now that I never thought I’d be.  It seems like the plan is actually happening, it’s just taking a long time.  I’ve been getting out more, alone, but out of the house.  I’m not sure when it became so overwhelming just to leave my house.  Part of the reason is because I don’t know anyone here besides the few that I work with but after 12.25 hours with them I’m pretty much over them.  However, I’ll never meet anyone if I never leave the house.

I’ve been going to church again but haven’t really met a lot of people.  I haven’t joined a team because I just finished the classes that you’re supposed to take to help you find your place.  I did learn, though, that being out of the church, my mercy has increased, so there’s that.  I just need to get on a team but every time I would ask about it they would ask if I have taken the classes because, you know, you have to know your spiritual gift to stack chairs.  I don’t even know where I want to volunteer.  I signed up to go to the office and do some stuff, but I started a new medication that made me unable to function.  It took a couple weeks to get past the dizzy spells.

I’m fine.
Thank you.

While I was initially writing this, I was on a plane to Des Moines trying to stay awake.  I was on nights, trying to switch to days but my body wasn’t having it so I woke up at 0136 instead of 0400.  I was a sleepy girl.

I’ve been listening to Within the Trenches podcasts and they’re talking about taking hard calls and processing them.  Some days I wonder if I’ll make it in this profession.  You take and take and build up a pile of horrors, but then what?  It’s part of the job, but it’s hard.  But then you get the good calls, the successful calls and it makes it worth it. I tried talking to someone about it, but I don’t want to sugar coat it or cause them trauma but it feels better to get it out to a human.  Mali doesn’t know what I’m talking about.

Here’s a success story: One of my cardiac arrest calls was a success.  cpr saveThey made it.
I received an award, along with many of my partners in Orange County and a CPR save pin.  This is what makes it worth it.  Not only knowing that they lived, but acknowledging it.  There were so many recipients at this ceremony andI was so proud of each of them.  Especially seeing the same ones go multiple times.  So often, as a telecommunicator, we never find out the outcome.  We don’t know if they made it or not.  This event was really encouraging, not only to me, but the whole team.  Sharing successes builds up a team.

So I was on vacation in Iowa.  I went to my niece’s wedding, which was great and a high school graduation of a cousin’s son.  Both of those made me feel really old.  It was a reminder that I’ve wasted a lot of time.  I’m not sure if I regret it because it has made me who I am.

So… that’s what has been up.

 

When you feel like all is lost…


I should be leaving for work right now.  I can’t stop crying.  I don’t want to adult today.  I don’t want to adult tomorrow and the next day isn’t looking so great either.

I woke up early after staying up late and my uncle Dale passed away.  No, we weren’t close.  There are too many honesties involved in the why nots.  So now there is only my aunt Ruby left in the McDonald generation.  It’s crushing me.

If you didn’t already know, I’ve never been close to anyone in my family.  Unless you count writing letters while they’re in prison.  That was the closest I ever got.  That’s not how it always was.  We used to visit, hug and miss one another.  Honestly, it’s my fault and it’s not my fault.  All I know is I could have done better.

I remember, after my grampa Dean died I would go visit uncle Dale and it would destroy me.  I was so close to my grampa Dean.  When my parents got divorced, we lived with my grandparents and he was incredible.  So gentle and encouraging.  He was patient and let me speak.  We would go for ice cream after dance class and I would say silly things like… This is your place grampa? (We were are McDonald’s)  He would laugh and I miss that so much.  Going to visit uncle Dale, I would hear that laugh and they looked so much alike… I couldn’t go anymore.

I’m horrible at keeping in touch with people.

Then they’re gone and it’s too late.

 

 

Pull up a chair, let’s have a chat


These past few years have been very strange.  Not strange like aliens or any other weird nonsense, but different.  Did you ever think I’d be where I am doing what I’m doing?  It’s almost like a ROFL moment.

Here are the words I am trying to say: I want to play music again.
Here is why I am not: Left hand… it still hurts.  Thanks doc for cutting it open to fix it, but… it’s not fixed.  Mostly it’s because of discouragement.  Just because you don’t like my style of music, don’t say I suck.

I’m #1 in the Raleigh/Durham/Greensboro area and #18 in the state of North Carolina.  I don’t suck.

I have been thinking of recording again.  I have a lot of songs that I’ve only recorded with my voice recorder app on my phone.  It probably won’t happen, but it would be nice to record them before I forget.  I’ve gone so far as to download the software on my new computer, got the microphone out (thanks, Sebrina) and pulled out my books.  The only problem is that I lack motivation.  However, moving back up to spot #1 has been an encouragement.

I think I’ll do it.

Whether anyone ever listens or not.

It’s like a part of me is missing.  I went from performing 4-6 times per week to nothing at all… it’s like we broke up.

So… encourage me.  Go have a listen.  Download some songs.  You never know, I might be someone some day. (lol)

 

 

On a scale of 1 to even…


I can’t.

This one is going to hurt.  So let’s just get started.  I’m going to ramble just a bit because most people that this applies to won’t actually read past the first clip in the link.  They just comment about what is in the first paragraph then go on living their lives.  This post is for them.  It’s for those that refuse to go deeper.  The ones that can’t see past themselves to see those their actions and words are effecting.

Now, don’t get me wrong, this is written in love.  I’m not trying to bash anyone or to intentionally hurt someone’s feelings, there have been enough hurts going around that we don’t need to open up any more wounds.  I just have some things I need to say about some life situations.

I like organization and lists, so let’s begin:

  1.  I was 14-15 years old and I was out in the front yard picking up sticks before mowing the yard.  I saw my father drive by.  He waved.  I waved.  I finished mowing the law waiting for him to drive back by, maybe stop and say hi.  I thought for sure I had missed him.  I sat on the front porch – on the cold concrete.  It started getting dark so I went inside.
  2. I don’t know how old I was, maybe 10 or so.  I was at a family reunion at a lake.  I remember taking one of the raft boat things out on the lake and paddling over to my cousins who were having a blast.  I didn’t fit in so I went back to shore and sat at a picnic table.  I sat there until bed time.  The next day I sat in a lawn chair and watched everyone play and talk.  I think this is around the time I fully realized that my family didn’t really want me around.

It was difficult.  I already felt like I didn’t know them any more.  We were all so close when I was younger but when my parents got divorced when I was 5 they slowly disappeared from my life.  I missed them.  I’m sad that I don’t have a relationship with them now.  They all seem so close to one another.  Many times they’ve said “I wish you lived closer.” I remind them that I moved closer.  Twice.

Here’s the thing… I always desired a relationship with my family, but, here’s the kicker, I pushed away the only family that has actually been there for me.  The ones that came to the many many softball games, the dance recitals, band concerts and every other life event that occurred.  They never made me feel like a burden.  I knew I was a pain to deal with, but they stuck it out.  They still stick it out.  They’re the ones that ask how I’m doing. Come see me when I’m in town. Celebrate my success.

So now I am 35 years old.  30 years have passed and so so many hurts.  I just can’t do it anymore.  So here’s the deal.  If you want to be in my life, be in my life.  If you don’t, don’t.  It’s simple.

I tell you all of that to tell you this.  In all of those years, my mother did what was best for me.  Not what was convenient, not what was easy.  She made hard decisions.  She worked hard and sacrificed herself to give me an awesome childhood.  I thought it was boring and never got to do anything, but looking back I was also a selfish jerk, so…  I went to camps, I had a season swimming pass, I had sleepovers, parties, we rented VHS tapes and had popcorn for dinner.  She worked 2 jobs at most times and went to night school.  She dealt with my delinquent sister and me, trying to outperform my delinquent sister.  She never gave up.  I remember my mother working into the night as a mail carrier.  She was late getting home.  Turns out she was viciously attacked by an ice covered tree branch and had to get stitches under her eye.  She also had to finish her route because people need those Macy’s catalogs on time.  She worked so hard and still does.  She is the reason I don’t call out of work, well, unless I’m in the hospital, I was way too high on Fentanyl to be dealing with that nonsense.

My step-father was the same.  I was so mean to him.  I took out my frustrations with my own father on him.  I wanted my own father to come to the games and recitals, turns out he did.  It’s really unfortunate that I spent so long trying to push so many people away just to make room for people that didn’t really want to be there.

It pains me to say it, but it’s true.  I was a child, how was I supposed to arrange visitations?  That’s what the grownups were for.  Why was I the one that had to call every time?  It’s too much of a burden for a child to bear.  Even as an adult it gets tiring.

If you chose to not be a part of my life, you missed a lot of really great things and I’m done feeling bad about it.  I know things get busy, I totally get that, but it’s time we all put on our big girl panties and admit we were all at fault.

To those that stuck it out.  Thank you.  A lot of really great, huge, life changing things have happened recently and I’m glad I get to share it with you.  Stick around, it only gets better from here.

P.S.  Look for the big picture, the things you can’t see just yet.  See things from others’ perspective.  Give them a voice.  You just may learn a little bit.

(Faith perceives as real fact, those things that have not yet been revealed to the senses.)

I’ve said this before…


I feel like I don’t have anything to talk about.  Maybe I have too much and can’t figure out how to put it in to words.

TMI ahead!  

I’ve been doing well.  I’ve been not well.  It goes both ways.  March is Endometriosis Awareness Month, it doesn’t make my Endometriosis better.  It makes me feel worse.  I’ve changed my eating habits for a few months now and it has helped immensely, but I still have days I can barely breath from the pain.  This new Doctor wants to start at the beginning just like the rest of them.  I don’t like spending my entire appointment tell the professional about my condition.  That’s why I am there, to fix it, not tell you what needs to be done.  So I’ve started different hormones that I’ve tried in the past.  Maybe it will work this time.  I’d really like to get off everything again, but I don’t think I could handle having regular periods again.  That was brutal.  However, the first few months were fine.  If it could just stay like that, it would be fine.

Anywho… TMI over.

I’ve been working on some things, finishing nothing, so I don’t really have a whole lot to talk about.  I’m going to a group ‘situation’ at church and we are making vision boards.  I’m pretty excited about that.

Habakkuk 2:2 – Write down the vision; write it clearly on clay tablets so whoever reads it can run to tell others.

So that’s what I am doing.  I need accountability, because where I am weak is where you come in.  I  have been missing being a part of the body.  I feel like an arm just laying on the floor.  I’ve been trying to take classes at my new church so that I can join a team, apparently, this is a prerequisite?  However, I work every other weekend and have finally completed the 2nd of 4.  The first 3 are classes, the 4th is a sit down with a pastor.  I’ve already asked to join a team, but with my schedule and just switching back to night shift, it has been hard to go in and volunteer in the office.  They use FellowshipOne, so I am mostly familiar with how much I hate it.  I can’t wait.

I have also been trying to get my private life right.  Maybe if I tell you where I am struggling you’ll call me out on it.  I used to have a friend that would do this for me, but we’re not friends anymore.  I should tag them.  Not that I’m bitter about getting left behind, but I am.  Just being honest.

I am a part of a book study on Facebook that I have also been neglecting.  I got behind and kind of stopped.  So that is my plan for tonight after I finish this, to catch up, watch the videos, etc.

I took another Spiritual Gift test, here are the results:

Pastor/Administrative: 20
Teaching/Exhortation/Serving: 18
Evangelism/Mercy: 17
Giving:16
Prophecy: 13

Yeah, the mercy really shocked me, too.  I guess in my old age I’ve started caring about others legit.

I guess I’ll end this for now.  Look at all the words I wrote when I had nothing to say!

bye.